Do you ever look at someone online and think “why am I not as rich, happy, successful, or thin as them?”.
Do you ever talk to a friend or an acquaintance about their accomplishments and leave thinking “why is their life so much better than mine?”
Comparing ourselves to others is completely natural, but it can be a bad habit that can steal our happiness.
You will never be the person you are comparing yourself to. You don’t know what they have done to get to where they are and they don’t know what you have done to get to where you are.
Jealousy is a dangerous cycle. It can fill us with hatred and resentment towards ourselves and others.
What if you took the negativity and anger that comparing gives you and began seeing it as a positive thing?
Begin seeing jealousy as a point of growth and motivation.
Begin to reflect on your jealousy of others and question what this jealousy can do for you going forward.
For example- One day, you catch up with an old friend and when you see her she looks really good- she lost a bunch of weight, started a garden, and just got a new job that she keeps raving about.
What about her accomplishments has made you jealous?
I’m jealous that she looks super good
Instead of being jealous of your friend’s fitness success ask yourself if this is an area of your life that is lacking? Am I jealous because this is something I want to be bettering myself in? Your jealousy is serving a purpose- it’s a calling for something you have been wanting to do.
From there- you can genuinely congratulate your friend and ask how she did it. Instead of being jealous- be inspired!!! (also note that success is contagious so you should always be happy that your friends are succeeding- and be patient you are next!)
To wrap this post up:
Let’s face it- it can be really hard to prevent ourselves from feeling jealous of others. So, instead of sitting in horrible jealous feelings – turn these emotions into feelings of inspiration. There is a reason why you are jealous of someone’s success: realize what it is and adjust your life accordingly.
Looking at jealousy as an opportunity for growth will help you understand that- where you are now isn’t a permanent state of being. You are still learning and bettering.
Let jealousy motivate you and become exactly who you want to be.
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